Or how I learned to change my negative self-talk and love the washing up
Those who know me well know that I don’t like housework, and washing up is no exception. Up until a few years ago, I would regularly leave the washing up each night. My thoughts would be something along the lines of “I don’t want to”, or “It’s not fair, why should I have to do it?” (you could almost see me stamping my foot!). So I would go to bed and then still be faced with the same pile of washing up the next morning. And by then it seemed 10 times worse. Somehow I had hoped that the washing up fairy would come during the night and clean my dishes. Magically, I would wake up to a clean and tidy kitchen, without having to do anything at all.
Then I discovered, how to challenge and change my negative and unhelpful self-talk. I realised that the washing up fairy does not exist and that as much as I didn’t like doing the washing up, I liked getting up in the morning to a kitchen full of dirty plates even less. I started saying “I could leave the washing up, but I prefer to do it tonight rather than in the morning”. So now I wash up most nights before I go to bed and I don’t mind doing it at all, as I love waking up to a clean and tidy kitchen. (Importantly here, I don’t beat myself up for not doing it on those nights that I am too tired or to busy, I just reconcile myself that I will have to do it in the morning).
When I work with weight management clients, preference or choice is such a powerful tool. Often we have similar thoughts around food, for example “it’s not fair, everyone else is eating it, why can’t I?”, or “I can’t have it, I’m on a diet” and then we over consume. Maybe we subconsciously hope that the weight loss fairy will come over night and magically remove the excess calories and fat from us, so we wake up slim without actually changing our habits or doing any work. I am guessing, though, that the weight loss fairy is as non-existent as the washing up fairy. So maybe if we change our thinking to “I can have whatever I want. I am choosing not to, as I would rather maintain my weight”, we might not eat as much. Try it and see what happens… It might just change your life.